Do you recall going to meet your future husband and walking down the aisle?

I do.

At the same time that I was excited and anxious, I was full of anticipation. I was also prepared to give my husband a passionate embrace.

After 15 years, I’ve had to learn some difficult lessons.

One is that marriage is wonderful but labor-intensive!

Would you agree?

And much of the necessary work is done in the bedroom.

Don’t get me wrong, sex can be wonderful, but it takes work, passion, and energy.

To have sex while married, however, is something that many women are reluctant to do. This is a depressing but accurate fact.

Because of this, if we’re not careful, we might get a sexless marriage or no marriage at all!

Here are three factors that, at worst, could cause your marriage to end in sexlessness and irreparable damage.

1) Not Giving Up the Cookies. You stop talking to your husband when you won’t have sex with him. It may become more difficult and less likely in the future for you to speak with him about other topics due to the lack of sex.

2) Having “Pity Sex.” If you have ever read 1 Corinthians 7, you are aware that it is improper to refuse to have sex with your husband.

Have you ever had sex with your husband just to get it over with? Maybe you’ve never done that.

You lacked passion and you didn’t bring your “A-game” into the bedroom.

My husband coined this term, “Pity sex.”

In reality, I had engaged in pity sex, but since I’ve come to terms with the fact that I was mistaken, I’ve been attempting to increase my level of passion in the bedroom.

3) Not Making Time to “Bake the Cookies”. Not having sex is one thing, but neglecting to prioritize it is quite another. I’ll ask you a question: Why should your husband prioritize you when you won’t prioritize sex?

While there are many facets to marriage, a lot of arguments can start in the bedroom. We women need to understand that having a successful marriage depends largely on sex. However, if you refuse to give up sex, give pity sex, or make time for sex, it could result in misery and a marriage nightmare.