For many women, reaching the age of forty is a psychological turning point they fear. But rather than being something to worry about, with the right attitude and determination, the phrase “Life begins at forty” can become a reality, not a cliché.
Many of us have experienced significant life changes by the time we are in our middle years, such as the dissolution of a marriage, the loss of a partner or career, health scares, or watching our children leave the nest. However, psychologically speaking, if we have the strength, our lives can change the moment our attitude does.
We can use our current level of maturity, life experience, and knowledge to boost our self-confidence and attractiveness more than ever. Women like Halle Berry, Sharon Stone, Sarah Fergusson, Emma Thompson, and Diane Keaton are examples of this. Willie Russell’s 1989 movie about a bored British housewife, “Shirley Valentine” should be compulsory viewing at what can be achieved at 42!
Being able to recover from an emotional trauma gives us the chance to reflect on the event and learn from it. the chance to start over, adopt a new diet, exercise regimen, and wardrobe, only keeping the things that make us feel good. With this chance for change, we ought to be more willing to take chances, fail more frequently, and accomplish things we previously could only have imagined. a chance to let go of the restrictions placed on our former lives and to approach each day as a brand-new adventure.
Live for the Moment
In our forties, we come to understand that life is made up of a series of moments. Those instances ought to be remembered and valued for what they are: significant facets of our past that have given us the sentimental attachments, romantic fervor, and willpower to shape who we are today.
The vehicle we drive, the size of our home, our income, or our social standing are unimportant. In our forties and fifties, we start to understand that life is about the people, the places, the knowledge, and the experiences we have; it is up to us to choose how to use them. There is a huge amount of the world to explore, a huge number of people to meet, and a huge number of things to do.
Live in the present despite your past struggles. Keep the past out of the present because doing so destroys your existence and prevents you from moving forward. Replace every negative thought with a positive one, and begin each day by remembering just one happy moment.
Consider what you already have rather than what you want. Seize the positive aspects of your surroundings. The things that make you who you are include sunrises, sunsets, deeds of kindness, and chance meetings.
Many of us have trunks instead of just suitcases, which makes it very difficult to let go of our baggage as we get older. But we cannot truly appreciate living in the present if we refuse to let go of our unpleasant memories and unpleasant experiences.
Life Changes for the Forty-Something Woman
Making such changes in our forties gives us a better armor to cope with life’s challenges than a twenty-something – we may have more resources, we definitely have more experience, and we have developed a maturity that will enable us to handle situations more competently and wisely.
Focusing on personal growth is especially beneficial in our forties. Every day, no matter how small, begin with a positive thought. A loving gesture or a kind word are frequently the most meaningless things. These ideas get us through the day and aid in our healing from traumatic experiences in the past.
No Regrets at Fifty-Something
Don’t consider all the things you could have accomplished as you look back on your life. Take a message from Jorge Luis Borges in his poem entitled Instants “If could live my life over again…..I wouldn’t attempt to be so flawless. I’ll be more adventurous, travel more, and enjoy more sunsets….”
According to human nature, the decisions we regret making the most in life are those we didn’t make. If everything goes wrong, pick up the pieces and keep going. It is difficult to do at first; it is simple to say but difficult to do. The good news is that we get better at it as we get older, though!
In a few years time you can look back and truly say, “Life Begins at Forty“.
