I’ll start by saying that there are some stunning women out there. I mean their souls when I say they are beautiful. There are some women who are just; lovely in terms of their characters. But I’ve recently experienced the complete opposite. I’m beginning to realize how deplorable some women can be. Due to their behaviors, men frequently receive harsh criticism. Ever ponder why women are “so complicated”?’ The reason is frequently… the women.

The Women

Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to perform? since we are aware that the women are looking and judging. There are unspoken but real expectations placed on women, such as those related to education, marriage, families, and careers. We fall into categories whether or not we meet them. categories that define the “worth” of women. A common representation of this “worth” is… the women.

The cleverer people frequently use manipulation as a cunning tool. When two women first meet, they are both trying to figure each other out. Once they’ve gotten to know you a little better, they frequently accept you at their estimation of your “worth,” at which point they either do or they don’t. In either case, they initially keep you at a distance until they can accurately assess your true “worth” and decide whether it exceeds their own. Still with me?

Then, two things take place. If your new friend believes you are more valuable than they are, they will either keep you close and learn from you or they will act as if you don’t exist. If your new “friend” believes that you are less valuable than they are, they will treat you with contempt and either pity or turn you into their project.

In a nutshell, it indicates that the women are only in danger… the women. Confused? Good.

The Show

All of this is concealed by what I like to refer to as “the show.” The big act is pretending we all have our lives together so we can maintain the situation we are in or “climb the ranks of a woman’s worth.” pretending to be the ideal supermodel, wife, homemaker, and mother.

It has an ugly culture that is motivated by insecurity, in my opinion. It’s totally destructive. Ironically, we share the same sentiments. The insecurities that divide us are the same. We all desire the same things. We are all acting, so we all “fail.” It resembles the worst-kept female secret ever. Yet we call it “friendship” while secretly tearing each other down.

Both participating and watching are taxing. not being true to oneself or those around oneself while acting the part. Who is really sincere today? Who actually means it when they say they will stand by their “friend” in their hour of need? Or are they merely acting it out for attention and personal gain?

who is secretly happy their lovely friend’s flawless “act” is unraveling… ?

The Truth

Ladies, there is no rivalry. You don’t have to mistreat women in order to feel validated. You are worthy regardless of how you rank in comparison to others. You don’t have to try to make your surroundings less favorable so you can prevail. Since you are not perfect, you have flaws. That’s okay; you never will be. You are a caregiver nonetheless. A child bearer, you are. You are powerful and competent. But most importantly, you are stunning and have nobody to compete with.